Time for a change
Back in 2011, there was born a girl - for me - the Most beautiful of all babes. My daughter, Cassidy
Her birth, was what drove my ambitions...
Ambition is our fuel, a desire for something greater - something bigger than ourselves - larger than what we now have.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
A quote attributed to Marianne Williamson, 1992, believed to have been first seen on her book A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles, a quote I cherish - and is seen on my Online Portfolio, click here.
Sometimes I imagine living my life in sheer silence. Be quiet, be nonchalant, be still. It is quite difficult, as I lay down at night, thoughts of my family's wants and needs surface - or at least they used to.
It is, however, difficult to separate ones ambitions and desires for himself (I'm using the masculine pronoun for the sake of brevity) against his craving for something better for others - selflessness. And so, I work. I strive to achieve, I move to push forward. The biggest challenge to ambition is one's own fear of inadequacy. Although, what's a magnificent valley without the rage of a destroying deluge to form the once pleasant alcove to a spectacular mountainside.
This article is all about how you can convert ambition into action --- hopefully for the people you care about.
#1 write it down:
Thoughts are the mind's way of forming the recipes of success into actionable plans. But what are thoughts except electrical impulses in the neurons of our brain.
Our mind, the human mind, is nothing but a combination of electric impulses occurring nonstop from the day we are conceived to the moment of our death. The consciousness that makes up our daily existence is nothing else except the patterns of impulses that our neurons form. That does not, however, mean that we are nothing but electric discharges. It should, therefore, not be a shock to find that what could be a brilliant thought in your mind a few moments ago could disappear at a moment's glance.
Would it not be wasted, therefore, if you had a thought that could change your life forever. A cure to cancer perhaps, or a business idea that could not only bring livelihood for you but also give employment to others.
Have a pen and paper ready in your study, or just in your pocket at all times. Never commit to memory something that has the potential to improve your future. Or maybe, in this brilliant day and age, use an application like Evernote, or Todoist, on your phone to write down all thoughts you have until come time that your ready to act on them.
I, of course, believe still in the power of writing. One's brain's logical and creative centers - the frontal lobe - is more closely linked to your motor-neural receptors, the part of your brain that controls most movements including your hands. Therefore, the more you move your hands - the more the creative and logical part of your brain is triggered.
It's much easier, and more fun, to flesh out thoughts when you write them. Try it - what's there to lose?
#2 Spend Time Deciding What Your True Intentions Are...
Yes, you read it correctly, "decide".
Your intentions are never truly set in stone, until you decide it is - and even after then, you are prone to changing it depending on what suits your motivations.
Choose between wanting to achieve your goals for others vs. for yourself.
This does not make you, however, a good or bad person. It just makes you human. To be human is to want. To be human is to strive. To be human is to suffer. To be human is to live.
Having the guts to want something for yourself, does not make you an evil person - unless what you want makes others suffer, and even this is debatable. We know of heroes of old. Great names like Alexander the Great, or maybe even the infamous Genghis Khan --- all names you will see in the next week on blog articles I'll write about them for my other company CentrAsia Tours --- but what we don't know are the realities the faced. We don't know if the good is just, and the evil is truly malicious.
The truth is, history truly is written by the victors. This, of course, doesn't justify, murdering millions of jews --- I'm talking to you Adolf.
Ergo, as part of your decision making process about what your true intentions will be, better add a sprinkling of your personal code of ethics into it.
The sooner you make the decision, the better it will be for you in every action you take toward your goal.
The biggest, and consequently, most difficult part is to stay your course. There will be moments - hard moments - when you are tempted to change your mind. Don't.
Which brings us to our next and final step.
#3 Be Patient
Being patient may sound as the most simplest of steps.
In some ways, it is. While in many, it's the hardest.
In your quest to achieve your goals and ambitions, you will encounter the scariest of all realities.
That all your actions are in vain.
This may be true, but in all likelihood, it is not.
Take for example in building your company's image and SERP on google. Say you start in January of 2020. You hear from some people that it should take a few years to get where you want to be --- the glorious 1st page of Google. Then come February, you're still only on the 8th page. Then March, and you're still on the 7th page. Then June arrives, and you're nowhere near the 4th page. Frustrating isn't it.
While it's true, you may be doing something, completely stopping your project to achieve your goal will be the weakest action you can take. Patience will be a better driver.
Find out what things you can do to make the process a bit easier, and swifter. But be patient in the result.
Likewise, say you want to go on a diet and be able to wear that handsome coat again.
You cannot expect your body to adjust to your most unreasonable of timelines (yes I'm talking to myself). Going from 84 kgs down to 64 kgs will take the better part of a year - and not 3 months, as what I've initially thought.
My insistence that it's possible was what made it difficult, for me to achieve it in the first place, ergo the need for patience.
Connect this with #2 and you are all the better moving forward.
And this ends my tirade about what my opinion is on how to achieve your ambitions. Truth be told you will see plenty articles like this. All of them discussing actions and steps and strategies. But all failing to address the most basic of problems...
The who, what, when, and why, of your ambitions.
and so, this is Rhiz Manalo of The White Dog Collective signing off.
Wondering who the guy on the picture is? That's my old friend Toby, catch him on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/tobywchu/